The subconscious mind is powerful and will do everything to keep you safe no matter the cost. Therefore, if achieving your dreams proposes any threat, you are most likely to going to procrastinate and self-sabotage, often even without realising it.
We tend to be more familiar with failure and therefore often dismiss our dreams before even starting. Or perhaps you find yourself working really hard towards your goals only to get distracted alongside the way. Procrastination and self-sabotage are common and often walking hand in hand. So if you are struggling to succeed, feeling like it’s impossible, things are getting too hard…
… DON’T STOP ❗️
Instead of throwing away your dream, change the approach.
Why we get distracted, procrastinate and self sabotage?
Most common reason for why we allow ourselves to get distracted from our goals is fear of having it all. Two simple questions come to mind:
What would happen if I achieved my dreams and goals?
If I had it all, what could go wrong?
Another reason might be a lack of clarity. It is ease to get distracted or jump from idea to idea if you are not entirely clear on what it is you actually want to achieve.
Become very clear on why you want to achieve specific goal - if your WHY is compelling enough, you’ll do whatever it takes to get there!
Face your fears, it's natural to feel scared if you are striving to achieve or create something new. It hasn't been done before and your mind might freak out. Don't buy into the negative thoughts but do pay attention to what comes up for you. And don’t be afraid to ask for support - it’s okay to talk about your dreams before you achieve them. If you choose carefully WHO you share your ideas and visions with, it can actually magnify the energy and help your dreams come true faster!
There is no need to overthink how you will make it happen, but do become aware of where you are at the moment and what is required to bridge the gap that takes you where you desire to be.
Who do you need to become to embody your desire(s)?
You can write down the following questions and ponder the answers, noting down everything that comes to your mind when you think about them. You might be surprised what you find out thought a simple exercise like this.
What old habits do you need to eliminate?
What new habits do you need to foster?
What current skills do you need to advance?
What additional skills and or abilities do you need develop?
What additional knowledge might be required?
Practical tools
VISUALISATION
Practice visualising what you want to achieve. Guided meditations are a great way to start if you are new to this or get easily distracted by your thoughts. Following a guided meditation ensures you always come back to your visualisation, leaving the train of thoughts behind. There is not need to completely eliminate thoughts, they are actually quite important, so pay attention to what is coming up for you during the process and how it feels - are you excited, worried, scared? Do some parts of your vision seem unrealistic? It' you subconscious speaking. Make good notes of these to check in later with your subconscious mind to see whether a particular limiting belief has formed which is keeping you from your goals or making it unnecessarily hard to achieve. You can easily find out what limiting or empowering beliefs your mind holds on using applied kinesiology.
IDENTIFYING LIMITING BELIEFS
As mentioned above, applied kinesiology, also referred to as muscle testing, is very helpful when it comes to identifying any limiting (or empowering) beliefs. You might find out that what your subconscious mind believes and what you consciously think or believe might be two very different things. This is what creates the friction and lead leads to sabotaging your efforts.
It is very important to remember that this method extracts information from your subconscious mind and what it believes to be true, it's NOT the ultimate truth.
How to muscle test:
Make sure you are well hydrated and your energy field is not disturbed. Imagine there is a zip starting at the bottom of your spine in front which you pull up and over your head.
Stand up in a relaxed posture and state out loud YES and allow your body to gently sway forward without pushing it. Allow the body to return back to center and repeat by stating out loud NO, this time your body should sway backwards. This is to calibrate so you know what answer you are getting.
Once you tested your yes and no, make a statement - always out loud. Make this a positive statement by avoiding can't, won't, shouldn't etc.*
* The mind cannot comprehend negations - if I tell you do NOT think of a giant pink elephant, guess what... yeah, you just imagined a giant pink elephant :D
If empowering and positive beliefs come out as yes, great! If they come out as no or you test positively on beliefs which are limiting you, don't worry. This can be changed!
Useful tip for accurate muscle testing:
Having your eyes closed helps you to concentrate during the process, as you will feel more within and be less distracted.
Some examples of beliefs to test can be:
It is safe to achieve my dreams.
It is possible for me to have it all.
I know how to have my dreams to come true.
I resent success.
I fear success.
Another way of testing to avoid negations could be:
It is possible for me to achieve my dreams and have a loving relationship at the same time.
I can achieve success without losing my health.
How to change limiting beliefs?
Changes start with awareness.
And so once you understand what is standing in your way, limiting you and keeping you stuck and distracted, you can begin the process healing and changing your belief system. There are many methods on how to change limiting beliefs, find the one which resonates with you the most.
Theta Healing - my personal favourite, because this technique digs deep right to the root of the issue super fast, very powerful yet gentle process.